i should clarify a few things. first of all, i'm not pregnant. it seems that two people asked J if i was when he told them that i accepted his proposal. i don't think it makes a difference & i'm not the type of person who feels that you must get married if you get knocked up, anyway. secondly, the ring pictured below is not MY ring, it's just A ring. i actually don't have an engagement ring yet. i don't want one that i'm not excited about just so i have a ring. i can wait until i see a ring that i look at & know that it is THE ring for me. i like tradition, i like art deco style but i also want something unique... and i'd really like it if J picked it out & surprised me with it. so, if i see something i think is cool, i show him the picture. but i'm not in a huge rush. i know i'll be wearing the ring for the rest of my life so i can wait until we find the right one. and finally, to "concerned"... yes, i am serious. i've never been more serious. and, if you are who i think you are, i love you but i'd really appreciate it if you'd be open minded & not pass judgement on someone you met once for a matter of a couple hours. J is my best friend, he understands me like noone else ever has. he supports me in every way & accepts my flaws (but does not point them out or make me feel bad about them). he makes me laugh & gets my sense of humor. he is so intelligent & we can have conversations about absolutely anything. i love him very much & look forward to growing old with him. so, there is no reason to be "concerned". i'm a grown woman who is intellligent enough to know what i need & passionate enough to follow my heart. i hope that answers any questions anyone may have had.